Can you believe 2020 is right around the corner? For myself, 2019 has been a year of growth.

I have been blessed to travel all over the world…from Disneyland for my birthday in January, to taking my first cruise to the Caribbean in March, then visiting Florida and Arizona for leadership conferences, and visiting Vancouver, B.C. with Maui and supporting Manaiakalani at the Freak Show wrestling tournament in Las Vegas.

One huge decision I made in 2019 was to take a break from my engineering career so I can take care and focus on my family…and managing the lives of my five children. It was a very hard decision for myself. I mean…think about it. I spent all of my years after high school to attend college with a goal of getting some kind of degree. After 6 years in college, I graduated with my B.S. in Civil Engineering and B.A. in Hawaiian Language. I worked at a couple engineering firms for a few years. I studied (and failed, then studied better) and passed the Professional Engineering exam. My life was supposed to be ENGINEERING….or so I thought.

But as I started reflecting on my life and what I wanted to prioritize, I knew my children were typically on the “back burner” of my priorities and would get the short end of the stick…the snappy mommy who did not have time for them because she was exhausted from work and giving her kind/positive energy to her colleagues, clients and customers. This was a very big decision for me and my family. Maui…this man is ALWAYS supportive of everything I do. So we were all in and I knew I needed to act now. Our children are young for a moment of our life. I mean my first baby, Manaiakalani, is a senior in high school and adulthood is right around the corner. So I could not wait for the “perfect” time because by then they would be all grown up.

It has been exciting and challenging. It has been a transitional period for a bit. But I am glad I took a leap of faith because I would have never known how it would be if I never did it. Sometimes you just have to say “F— it! Let’s try!” and then see what happens.

What I share above is only a tiny bit of what I have been reflecting on for 2019. But I would like to share some of these questions with you so you can reflect on your 2019. Get a journal and take an hour or two (or a few days like me) and answer these questions. As you reflect over 2019, you can start thinking about what you want to do in 2020 (I will share the 2020 questions next week). But first…let’s work on reflecting on 2019!

  • What was your biggest triumph in 2019?
  • What was the smartest decision you made in 2019?
  • What one word or phrase best sums up and describes your 2019 experience?
  • What was the greatest lesson you learned in 2019?
  • What was the most loving service you performed for yourself or another person in 2019?
  • What is your biggest piece of unfinished business in 2019?
  • What were the three most significant events of 2019?
  • Who were the three people that had the greatest impact on your life in 2019? 
  • When did you feel most alive in 2019?
  • What was the biggest risk you took in 2019? 
  • What was the biggest surprise in 2019?
  • What was your biggest failure in 2019?
  • What fears surfaced in your life in 2019? 
  • What is one thing you can forgive yourself for in 2019? 
  • What is one thing you can forgive another for 2019? 
  • What was your biggest learning experience in 2019? 
  • What will you vow to NEVER do again? Do more of?
  • What one area do you feel stuck in from 2019 that you would like to improve in the coming year?
  • What were the three most impactful books I read in 2019? 
  • Is there something from 2019 that you need to let go of?
  • Is there a thought, feeling, or person in my head or life who has taken up too much space and it’s time to let go of? 
  • What important relationship improved the most in 2019? 
  • Did I spend as much QUALITY time with my kids in 2019 as I would have liked?  How will this stay the same, or improve in 2020? What must change for this to happen? 
  • Did I spend more time building my DREAM or building the DREAM of someone else?  How will this change in 2020?
  • What compliment would you like to have received in 2019? 
  • What compliment would I like to have been given in 2019? 
  • What else do I need to do or say to be complete with 2019?

***I got these questions from a post by Doug and Thea Wood. They are a mentors that I follow. They may have gotten these from their mentors, but I wanted to share where credit is due.***