“A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.”
So you might be thinking…maybe Nita is going to talk about having a stay-cation in Waikiki. Since Hawaii is pretty much shut down because of COVID-19 (or if you fly from out of state you will have to do a 14-day self quarantine), a lot of residents or locals have been doing stay-cations in Waikiki. BUT…this is not the direction I am going. Today I wanted to share a story of getting out of my comfort zone.
Over this 2020 summer, we went to the beach a lot more than normally. This is one silver-lining with COVID shut down. Since we are all stuck at home, the kids get restless and us parents get tired of complaining kids. Once we got the okay to go to the beach, we took them to the beach as often as possible. At first we would go out boogie boarding. And then it progressed to surfing.
One morning, Maui and I planned to go surfing while the kids were still at home sleeping. I usually count any time Maui and I are on our own without kids as a “date night”…or for this time, a “date morning”.
I figured we were going to go to Waikiki beach since I was coming along. I am used to that place. I don’t feel so threatened by the waves or the surfers. A lot of the people out there are beginners… which makes me feel a little more advanced than them. It is what I am comfortable with.
Anyhow….Maui had a different idea. I asked him, where are we surfing at? He said, “Kaisers”. Once I heard that, my anxiety went on overdrive and I became defensive and was debating Maui over his choice.
Kaisers is a place for intermediate and advanced surfers…in my mind. Beginners (any levels) should not really go here yet. This could be my fear talking to me. For me, I do not want to get in people’s way. People are there to surf, and I do not want to be the newbie trying to figure things out. I don’t want to accidentally hit someone with my board because I don’t know how to catch a wave. I don’t want to pearl dive in front of EVERYONE. There is so much that goes through my head.
I’ve been there a few times and I have my stories but we can save that for another time. If you really want to know, just ask me and I can share. One includes me eating reef and another includes a screaming child crying for his life. Yeah…not the happiest of stories. So maybe you can better see why my anxiety went on overdrive.
So with all of this is in my mind. I had a “discussion” (if you know what I mean) with Maui as we were driving to a surf spot. I called him inconsiderate and selfish and I was making reasons of why going to Waikiki is better because there are no tourists there. So guess where we went???
KAISERS! I had to suck up my fear and anxiety because I REALLY wanted to surf…even if I was going to be the newbie out there by myself. I paddled out. And good thing there was a woman out there surfing on the inside by the post. She seemed like she surfs often but she was catching waves on the inside break. So I followed her. I caught my first wave. It felt good. Once Maui knew I was okay, he went on his way to the outside waves to catch his waves. It was just me and the lady taking turns on the inside waves.
It was actually really nice. No one was out there….so I didn’t have to feel like I had to compete with anyone for waves. I caught my five waves (my goal when I go surf…just CATCH at least 5 waves) and it felt great! Any extra waves I caught was overachieving…but my arms could barely paddle. I tried a few more…and was good with what I did. I paddled in with a smile on my face and a sense of accomplishment.
What I learned from this day is that although being in a comfortable space feels good and easy, sometimes you need people to push you out of your comfort zone as it can help you grow. I was scared to go surf and look like a fool. I was scared to not be able to handle the waves. But I jumped in and tried it out. And no one really watches you cause they are worried about themselves. If I was stubborn and sat in the truck pissed because I didn’t get my way, I would have been angry for the rest of the day. But I pushed through the fear, went in and it turned out to be a really good day.
Can you think of ways you need to be pushed out of your comfort zone? Can you be stubborn and don’t want to change? Just some things to think about next time you have to do something out of your comfort zone. Take a chance. Push through the fear and see what happens. It may be good or it may be bad, but you will never know it until you do it.